Super-Hubby
I need to say early and often that I’m blessed with a husband who gives an extraordinary amount to his family each and every day. Because of the significant medical needs of our children, one might say this is because he has no other choice. But of course he has a choice, and each day he chooses to give everything he can to me and the boys.
Super-Hubby was at home with the boys our first two years with them (starting at 12 months old and 1 week old). Amazing!
For our first two years with the boys, Hubby stayed at home and I went to work. We adopted Roo and Bear through foster-adoption, and when we first met them they were just 12 months old and 1 week old.
Hubby is a man who has survived two years at home with two high-needs infants, PLUS one high-needs wife… (I used to fancy myself as a “low-maintenance” kind of girl, but I have since come to realize that this was delusional on my part.) Sadly, there are many other husbands and fathers who have walked away from much less demanding familes. But Hubby continues to stay, and give more than he ever knew he had to give.
Dear Hubby,
They should give out medals for parenting, and you should get all of them.
XOXO
Naomi
This becomes even more remarkable when thinking that your hubby has his own physical stuff to deal with. (Feel free to delete that bit if you feel it too personal.)
I remember when my own children were young, Jay being the same age as Bear is now, and how loved they were by you and your hubby. The sacks of potatoes were given extra TLC by you both, and I remember thinking that you’d make for great parents.
And you are. I never realized you were both as brave as you are, but every day I add that to the list too.
Oh, and about this “I’m a high maintenance wife” thing.
This is all I have to say about that:
Are you out of your (*$&%(*#$&%#($*$()*#$%)(#$*&%)#($%*& #$(*# % mind? I mean $*%#$(% $% $%* ($*%$)(#* $(% #($%* )$( *)$(%* ($*%. And to continue, ($*% $(%* $#(%* #)_$*(% )($% (*%& %(*# *.
I feel better now. kthx.
these are the tender moments that seem to be necessary between partners as they figure out how to walk life together. i appreciate this. raise my cup to an incredible hubby + his beautiful bride.
pds, without your kids in our life, I don’t know if we would have ever turned the corner and decided to have our own. And what a shame that would have been!
They say there’s a fine line between brave and stupid…
But either way I’m glad we’re here.
High maintenance — I really appreciate your thoughts here. In many (most?) ways, you’re right. But emotionally speaking, I ended up as quite a wreck there for awhile, and that’s an entirely different kind of high maintenance.
I love that photo!!
Thanks, wifey. You’re pretty awesome yourself.
I saw once where someone said, “Chains do not hold a marriage together. It is threads, hundreds of tiny threads, which sew people together through the years.” We’ve been at this for a long time for such young pups and everyday I’m glad not only that we married, but also that we married when we did. The seams that hold us together are strong my love.
Hubby and I and have a very limited time to actually talk to each other face to face… I guess y’all are just going to have to put up with some of our personal conversation here. You do what ya gotta do.
Thanks for joining me in the comments section, hon, and for accepting your new blogosphere name gracefully.
PS - However, if you have any complaints, please feel free to use snail mail.
I think this is the part where the friend gets to say, “you’ve been minimizing your whole life, so it makes total sense that there are going to be times when you might end up quite a wreck”.
p.s. I’m so very thankful for our virtual friendship.